SEX ON FIRE:

This month we have been discussing the hot issue of sex and relationships with our youth. This has created a lot of interest and produced some heated debate. What does the Bible teach about sex and relationships? How does it relate to our culture today?

One of the questions which has generated the most heat is the issue of dating, and particularly if you are a Christian should you date someone who isn't? In our free society should we have restrictions on who anyone dates? People who aren't Christians can be just as nice as people who are. Is dating someone who isn't a Christian ok, but marrying someone who isn't a Christian wrong? But if you start dating, then break the relationship later, isn't that wrong and hurtful? All crucial stuff. How do we get it right? How do we honour God? Where do we look in the Bible?

Over to you. What do you think? What would you like to ask? Its definitely better to open this whole issue up rather than hide it away, and stay silent? Post your views and questions now. NIGEL

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Annonymous  - Oh what a subject     |2009-04-01 23:30:33
This is such a big issue
I have been out with Christians and non-Christians,
seems no matter who I choose to go for, the relationship I have with those
people is exactly the same.

My last gf was a non-Christian, she respected my
beliefs and had no problem talking about it within the
relationship.

Ultimately, I don't see it as an issue who you are with, so
long as you love each other and you hold to your beliefs.
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Anonymous   |2009-04-01 20:41:25
I found that dating a non-christian was a real struggle, not because of
personality or character, but because we wanted different things and our
worldview was too different on too deep a level (i.e. our beliefs).

Later I
dated a Christian & found that there are still differences, but the key factor
was that we shared a love for Christ. This was at the heart of our worldview,
beliefs, thoughts, and actions. We were able to support and encourage each
other in a way that simply wasn't possible when I dated a non-christian.

In
short, I found out that the passage in 2 Cor 6:14 isn't God being unthinkingly
harsh, or failing to understand my circumstances - rather, it's practical advice
that demonstrates God's desire for us to have his best.
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Jonny   |2009-04-20 00:15:25
I belive that there shouldent be an issue with who you date or who you should't
date. If who ever goes out with you respects you and your religion, then so
what. However if You find they dont respect you, its then that you can start
questioning who you should or shouldent go out with!
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Nick Q   |2009-04-21 00:50:36
if you go out with someone who doesn't know jesus, how are you ever going to
explain that you are IN LOVE with him, and that you desire to be with him more
than ANYONE?

Or is it that we maybe don't love Jesus yet to tell everyone that
we know about just how wonderful he is?
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Esther Thomas   |2009-04-22 10:27:21
I dated a non-christian. I fell in love. I married him. And when the marriage
got hard (cos marriages get hard, thats the reality) we had nothing left to base
our relationship on.

I highly reccomend not even starting a relationship with
a non-christian because fundamentally you will both be coming at life from
different points of view. And when it comes to working on the tough-bits, you
need to both be standing on Jesus as the solid rock.

A marriage without
Jesus is built on loose gravel and its not worth the heart ache.

Hold out for
a christian. Jesus loves to bless us, but sometimes we have to be patient. He
may not stop us from doing what we want, but he also wont stop the inevitable
pain that comes about as a result.
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Xris   |2009-04-22 15:27:32
I have no problem in dating a girl whose Faith is "less than strong",and
asking if she is a Christian is not one of my first questions,I have to
admit!But,if the relationship strengthens into something more serious,and
marriage comes into the equation,then the onus is on both parties to seriously
discuss the Faith issue before taking the big step to a lifelong commitment to
each other.If either party feels in any way threatened or uncertain,then take a
step back and think/talk things through before heartache intervenes because of
wrong decisions!
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Anonymous   |2009-04-25 18:29:45
Calum Burke
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I83LHzEAa2E&featu re=related
Not
related to sex on fire.
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Naomi  - Sex on fire     |2009-04-28 10:37:56
What would Jesus do?
Well, you might say that he never dated anyone so it's not
a relavant question. But He is the Word- everything He is runs through the
bible. On every page He calls us to live life with him, in fellowship with Him.
How can you not share the deepest things of your soul with the person you love
and them not understand? It is possible to live like that but it's very very
hard. Ask the people in your church who are married to non christians- fantastic
people but there's always a part of you where you just can't share the wonder.
Think about it. Don't forget that Solomon, the wisest man in the world, married
women who loved other Gods + his kingdom fell. Yes I know he had hundreds of
wives and that in itself is asking for trouble (!!)- but what he was condemed
for is that they turned his heart away from loving God, not that he had too
many. When Christians marry non- christians, that is mostly what happens- not
always but mostly- either you split or you end up compromising God out of your
life. Sooner or later faith has to turn to action and that's where the conflict
comes. God is compassionate when He says ' do not be yolked to an unbeliever '.
It's not accident that this verse is in the bible. Please don't ignore it.
Neither be condemned if it's already too late for you...God doesn't love you any
less, nor your partner.
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Andy  - What does the Bible teach?   |2009-05-13 14:24:46
We hear a lot about “biblical marriage” these days. Some of us might not be
clear on what that means. There are several types of marriage found in the
pages of the bible. Some of these are: polygynous marriage; Levirate marriage; a
man, one or more wives, and some concubines; a male soldier and a female
prisoner of war; a male rapist and his victim; and a male and female slave. No
one form of marriage is the preferred model.
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amanda thompson   |2009-06-09 11:03:44
Hello peepz,
In the many relationships i have had, the majority of them
have been Christians, i guess i am a christian as i used to go to church. And
being in the situation on relationships, i respected there beleifs and i respect
that..x
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Anonymous   |2009-08-18 16:07:14
I know a girl who dated a non-christian. He was a good guy and they loved each
other very much. They got married and then he persuaded her not to go to church
so often so they could spend time together. Eventually she stopped going to
church totally. It was years later she realised that she had given up her faith
to be with the man she loved. She didn't love him more than Jesus to start with
but as she spent time with her husband and no time with Jesus her relationship
with God faded. There is some good news. Years later things changed and he now
doesn't mind her going to church. It's easy when you're young and dating to put
up with each others differences (you are so head over heals in love) but 10, 20
30 years down the line life will have thrown challenges at you and you need to
go through them together with God. By the way there's a stat (which you'll need
to research): 50% of marriages end in divorce, 10% of Christian marriages end in
divorce, and 0.1% of Christian marriages where the couple pray together
regularly end in divorce. It's cheesey but it's true 'a couple that prays
together, stays together'. Marriage and the rest of your life is too important
to mess this up.

PS there are thousands of great people out there who aren't
Christians (many probably nicer than lots of the Christians I know) but I still
wouldn't want to marry any of them.
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